Making Sense of Our Life From a Different Perspective
In 1980 I was first introduced to the concept “you create your own reality.” At that time, this was a foreign thought. I lived as though life just happened to me. Now I have a framed greeting card that shows a woman on a balance beam, with the saying:
Is willing to accept that she creates her own reality, except for some of the parts
where she can’t help but wonder what the hell she was thinking.
Are you one of the multitudes of people asking yourself, “What is my life purpose? Just what is my life all about? Does it really make any sense at all? Is there an order to my life? What do I need to do to feel fulfilled? What is my soul calling me to be and do?” This page is an article I wrote that presents a version of “what’s it all about?” from a different viewpoint.
Over the past 35 years in this field of endeavor, my work has convinced me that our life experiences, especially our childhood, are a set-up for what we have come here to learn and experience. As an immortal soul, we agreed to what we have come to learn, i.e. our life purpose and lessons. Our purpose and lessons are part of us, a driving force within our soul.
As a certified clinical hypnotherapist, I have four main areas of regression work that form the basis for this article: (1) Belief Systems, (2) Past Life Regression, (3) Life-Between-Lives Spiritual Regression, and (4) Life Purpose:
Belief systems are the thoughts we form early in life that help us understand and make sense of life. These thoughts are stored in our subconscious mind. Think of them as strongly held opinions that determine how we perceive life. In the same way that a computer is programmed and will only perform according to it?s programming, so too we will only perform according to our programming underneath. It is often very different from the logical and conscious thoughts of our self.
A subconscious belief system is formed when an event happens from which we determine “this is how I am” or “this is how life is.” Let’s say you’re 6 years old, sitting in your first grade class and the teacher asks a question. You raise your hand, proud that you know, and you’re wrong! What happens? The other kids laugh and you literally die inside. In that moment, you’re likely to have some intense thoughts: “I’m so stupid,” or “I’ll do anything to never be embarrassed again,” or “I need to always be right.”
In that moment, a belief system is formed out of four components that become linked together: your age, the event, the emotion and the thought. Those linked elements are then written into the subconscious mind as though it were the law. It then begins to define how you feel about yourself (stupid), how you need to be (always right), and what to avoid (anything that could embarrass you.)
All of our actions, thoughts, feelings, and even our physical health, are determined by our subconscious beliefs. If you have a belief that you’re not good enough (very common!), then no matter what the reality is, you’ll feel not good enough. That thought is like a magnet, drawing situations into your life that “prove” you’re not good enough. The “truth” doesn’t matter. You’re always concluding: I’m not good enough. A clear signpost of a belief system is: this is just how I am, how life is, how it’s always been and how it’s supposed to be. You can’t imagine it otherwise.
There’s a joke among past life therapists:
This is the life you’ve been dying to live.
From a spiritual perspective, all of your former lives enable you to be who you are today. One of the benefits of a regression that takes you through another life, and the death, is that you’re able to put the former life into a broader perspective after it’s over. 20/20 hindsight is so much easier than finding wisdom or making changes when you’re caught up in the emotions and drama of daily life. There’s a relief and lightness that occurs when one leaves the body, and then a realization of “what could/should have been.”
It may have been a life with deep losses and our response was to isolate and pull back from others in order to not feel more pain from losing love. At the end of the life we realize we were trying to learn how to move past pain and have the courage to love yet again. And thus we come back to learn again about love, loss and the courage to move on.Through each of our lives, we continue to evolve ourselves, and thus learning these lessons continues from lifetime to lifetime, shifting and evolving as we grow spiritually. We don’t learn all the sides of a lesson in one lifetime.
This regression is what pulls the other pieces of the puzzle together and creates the orderly picture that we can understand. It helps to put the bigger story of who we are into perspective and answers the questions: who am I, why am I here, and what has all this been about?As described in the Session page, in the Life-Between-Lives regression (LBL), you go back to your last past life, through the death and then retrace your journey as a spirit into the after-life. You re-experience what it’s like to enter into the spirit world, leave your earth energy and “human side” behind and become all that you are as an immortal soul. From this super-consciousness state, you are able to communicate with your guide, as well as the wise and very loving Beings who know you, literally to the depth of your soul, and have guided you through all your incarnations.
Thus, you are able to look at this current life, as well as past lives, from a much higher perspective – as an immortal soul, You can experience who you are beyond your personality and ego, and understand what your purpose is this lifetime, why your challenges are what they are, and how your family helps create and/or support you in the lessons and obstacles that you’ve come to learn and grow through. As a soul, you already know this information and your seeking of it follows the wisdom: That which you are seeking is seeking you.
This is a new session that I began offering in 2015 with rather profound results. As a soul, you come into this life with full knowledge of your plan and purpose for this lifetime. That knowing is within you and is expressed through you, even if you’re not aware of it. Since this knowledge is within you, we can access it with hypnosis.
In the session, you go back to the first time in this life that you were expressing your life purpose, even if you weren’t conscious that’s what you were doing. We then move from memory to memory throughout your life, describing times you were living your purpose. It’s like a life review at this stage of your life.
We then do any sort of work that is need to help release blocks, understand the themes, and most importantly, examine the importance of the events on your current experiences and going forward through the end of your life.
Clients have been deeply moved by their experiences. Most are surprised at the memories that emerge, and at the ones they expected that do not come up for review. You get the opportunity to focus on your life from the perspective of “I’ve been living my purpose all along.” It’s quite validating and affirming.
From this vantage point of seeing the much bigger picture of your journey through lifetimes, your childhood begins to make more sense. The way you respond to childhood experiences forms your belief systems about who you are; those that empower you and those that limit and block you. You create deeply rooted thoughts of “I am this” and “This is how life is for me.”
Let’s say you’ve come in to learn to be strong and compassionate. As a child, you may experience incredible losses and victimization. One client with this lesson had lost four members of his immediate family to death by the time he was a teenager. He was nearly crippled emotionally and mentally with all the losses and wanted to close his heart in order to not feel that depth of pain again. Yet, his lesson was to become strong and move beyond the losses into compassion and being openhearted, willing to love again. His greatest fear, and his soul’s deepest desire, was to love openly and intimately. All of his losses created the obstacles he is called to move through this lifetime.
When you come face-to-face with the main lessons you’ve come to learn, you experience great fear ~ many times it’s terror. It can look, feel and seem like life and death, survival and failure. The goal is to move through that which you most fear will destroy you, your family, and your well being. It’s supposed to feel that way! It can, and probably will, take every bit of your courage and intention to break out of the limits that bind us. That’s how life lessons work. It’s our limiting beliefs that set up these deep fears and help draw the situations into our lives. These beliefs, and the obstacles to what we want, are our pathways to our life lessons.
Even without the past life or LBL regressions, you can discern your life lessons by looking at your life themes and greatest fears. Get quiet, still your mind, and ask yourself: What am I most afraid of? What do I most regret and what circumstances/ thoughts/actions created that? What obstacles/issues keep coming up in my life, over and over? What do I most want to achieve (non-material)? These are soul questions and the answers that may quietly, or loudly, appear over time will lead you to a deeper and richer understanding of why you’re here and what you as a soul intended for this life.